Believe it or not, there is something worse than socks & Birkenstocks…(although that trend is growing on me)… what I am talking about is a bad attitude.
Not that being negative has ever really been cool but this post is not about smiling when your clearly not happy or pretending to like something that you obviously hate. The only people who pretend to be something they’re not are fakes … and the only people who can’t help it are mentally ill. I would never criticise mental illness. Mental illness is common, totally normal and treatable. Mental illness isn’t a choice. Attitude is.
Attitude – good or bad – is 100% a choice.
Attitude is learnable unlike depression or anxiety which is not.
The fact is life is full of crap. Crap moments, crap people and crap jobs. I have never met a person who said they love cleaning toilets, paying bills or being spoken to rudely. That’s life and if you know you have to deal with aggravating things on a regular basis, wouldn’t the rational response would be to stop complaining about it?
Everybody in the world knows that customers can be irritating, everybody in the world knows that washing up is gross and everybody wants a new pair of shoes. So why have a bad attitude? We know it sucks…get over it and get on with it.
By dwelling on the negative side of the crap in life all you are doing is making your life and everybody elses miserable. Being in a bad mood because you had a horrible day and taking it out on others does not nurture empathy and compassion in other. Moaning and groaning to the people around you only creates resentment and a negative atmosphere. The people who inspire and are looked up to by others, are the people with the good attitudes.
If you are mopping the floor, you don’t have to tell the world … or anyone… that you love it… or hate it… because guess what, they don’t care if you love it or hate it. The only thing people care about is if you are happy and fun to be around.
So get over it, put on some music and take a rational approach to life which is… shit happens… and then you have to clean it up.
I set myself small daily goals to cultivate a better attitude starting with arriving home. Every time I walk in the door I will straighten up, smile and say “hello” in a chirpy voice. My feet will hurt and people have probably been mean … maybe I will tell this to the one who asks how my day was, because it is the truth, but then I will move on and be happy that someone cared enough to ask.
Being negative will not make the people around you happy and ultimately that is all anyone really wants, to be happy. You choose your attitude so make it a good one 🙂
How about you?